Getting stuck in ruts
April 4, 2024
It’s getting quite lovely and I’m glad to be through March, the most mucky, muddy month of the year here in Toronto. With all the muddy trails in my neighborhood this time of year, I’ve been thinking about ruts. Bicycles and strollers have transformed once-hard-packed trails into treacherous messes. In my neighborhood, the ruts are everywhere and they’re easy to see.
Unfortunately, not all ruts are so obvious. We can fall into ruts in our lives and they can be invisible to us. We do the same things in the same ways, over and over until habits form. These habits can become so entrenched that we don’t even notice them. There’s nothing inherently bad about that as long as nothing changes. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it, right? Well, there’s a problem in that kind of thinking. We live in an ever-changing world. The only constant is change, so it’s a good idea to examine our habits and make sure that they are adapting to keep up.
There’s a fine line between a habit and a rut. In fact, I think it’s just a matter of semantics. Good habits help us move towards a better future, while ruts keep us firmly planted in place. Staying in a rut is easy, but if we want to grow, then we need to do hard things. Fortunately, we can shift our ruts into good habits. It won’t happen overnight, but that’s ok. Good things come to those who work.
The first step is awareness. Take some time to take a good look at the various areas of your life. See if you can identify areas of stagnation. Consider journaling to see what bubbles up. You might also want to talk with a friend, family member or trusted colleague. After all, sometimes we’re too close to see ourselves clearly.
Once you see a rut, ask yourself how it serves you and how it’s holding you back. If you decide that you want to change, identify a small step you can take to transform it into a good habit. (When I say small step, I mean small step! If the step is too big it’s easy to get discouraged. After all, it took you a long time to get into this rut, so it’s important to accept the fact that it’s going to take a while to change it.) Look for opportunities to take a small step every day. Even though your actions may feel too small, they will add up quickly.
Don’t be afraid to experiment. Start doing things a little differently and see what happens. Not every strategy will transform your life, but if you keep trying then something is certain to stick! With effort, we can transform our ruts into good habits that can make a positive difference in our lives.
You can do it. I believe in you!
A bicycle stuck in a serious rut!
Photo:‘The Crusher’ copyright Jason Hollinger
"It was so clear to me that it was almost invisible."
-Neko Case
KeynoteS and workshops
Hire DAn to give your team a fresh perspective
Over the past two decades, I’ve been fortunate to present at over a thousand events for tens of thousands of people. Here are a few of my favourite topics which can be delivered as workshops for small groups or keynotes for hundreds at a time.
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Challenge Assumptions and Get Unstuck
What you know for certain could be exactly why you’re stuck.
The thinking, processes, and attitudes that got you where you are have served their purpose. You’ve found lots of right answers and developed systems to get stuff done. That’s great as long as things are going as expected. But these past few years have taught us just how unpredictable the world really is. Now it’s time to shift our thinking and take the next steps to succeed.
By challenging our assumptions, we can move past our preconceived notions of the ‘right answers.’ Perhaps more than at any time in history, we need to find new ways of thinking and doing things.
As always I use eye-popping magic, stories, and optical illusions as powerful visual metaphors to create a sense of wonder and astonishment. This is not only thoroughly engaging and fun, but research shows that there’s a transformative power in wonder and awe. It empowers each person in the room to apply the learning to their own lives.
Keynote or workshop participants will learn…
… how to get out of the “same-old-thinking-rut” and find new solutions
… how to identify and challenge the limiting assumptions that hold us back
… how to see the world from new perspectives so they can get unstuck.
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The Key to Clear Communication and Compelling Leadership
Empathy is the key to creating a better world.
What if you could magically see the world through someone else’s eyes?
In our increasingly individualized society, it can be so easy to forget that your ‘truth’ isn’t universal. What’s obvious to you might be invisible to others (and vice-versa.)
With over 20 years of experience creating and delivering presentations for a wide spectrum of audiences; I understand the vital importance of seeing the world from others’ perspectives.
In this program, I use magic, optical illusions, and interactive exercises to illustrate the transformative power of empathy. I’ll demonstrate the fallibility of our narrow perspective and teach practical tools to widen our understanding of others’ needs and motivations.
This thought-provoking program will empower participants to see the world from fresh perspectives, unlocking new levels of leadership, communication, and collaboration.
Leaders, sales professionals, and anyone who works with others will learn…
…how to truly listen and ask better questions before offering solutions.
…how to overcome the barriers to empathy to create better relationships.
…how to build a bridge of understanding and collaboration.
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Thriving Through Positive Psychology
Based on rigorous scientific research, the field of Positive Psychology is devoted to the study of what makes for a flourishing life. In this fun and informative session, I will explain the PERMAH model (Positivity, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning, Achievement, and Health) and show how you can put it to use at work and home to help you not only survive but thrive.
In an increasingly complex and hectic world, people are becoming more and more stressed, depressed, and overwhelmed. Fortunately, the field of positive psychology provides us with tools to counter these trends so we can flourish.
Moving beyond the science, you’ll get hands-on experience with practical tools and techniques to help you not only survive, but thrive.
As always, I’ll use some powerful magic as a visual metaphor to illustrate the transformative power of this exciting field.
Positive Psychology is NOT ‘happy-ology’ or dry academic theory. Participants in this interactive program will learn…
… practical techniques to improve quality of life, mental health and physical vitality.
… how to identify and harness your strengths to produce better results with less effort.
… strategies to increase connection and collaboration at work at home.
About DAn
not Your ordinary wonder worker
For over 25 years I’ve used magic to captivate and entertain at corporate and private events across North America. I’m proud to say that I’m a repeat performer at the world-famous Magic Castle (the most prestigious magic venue in the world). While all my magic is family-friendly, my presentations are tailored to engage and amaze intelligent adults. It’s not just a bunch of tricks - it’s an interactive experience that challenges assumptions and makes you think (which makes sense given that I’m also a renowned keynote speaker.)
Above all, my goal is to craft extraordinary moments without causing any embarrassment or making anyone feel foolish. When it comes to entertainment, your event's success and your guests' enjoyment are my top priorities.
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